Orlando is Open

October is the month where I feel like things really start to change. The weather gets a bit cooler, school sports have started playing games, bands are having concerts and competitions. The end of the year also brings exciting holidays and family gatherings with relatives we don't get to see often. With the season changing, family changes, and time flying by the way it does, we also have exciting business changes to announce.

As of last week we officially opened the Orlando clinic where you can come with your kiddos for services!

One of our therapy rooms with toys, a desk, and tent.

Working on a room with a dinosaur theme.

While we are still working hard to get everything organized and put together, some clients and families have been able to enjoy sessions in the clinic. To learn a bit more about the benefits of therapy in a clinic setting, check out our previous post announcing the Orlando location :)

If you are looking for clinic based ABA therapy, now is the time to start! While we still have open availability, spots are going pretty quickly.

Message us and we would be more than happy to help you!

May 24, 2024

Moving Past Crisis Part 2

Did you see part 1 of this post last week?? If not definitely go check it out! We discussed strategies for staying 'Cool During Crisis' and ways to help your tantruming child.

So, the hard part is over… now what? After something frustrating happens with raw emotions, our natural tendency as parents is to remind our children what upset us.  Aka, 'The Lecture.'

Do you remember 'The Lecture' when you were a child? I do. It didn't happen very often, but I remember sitting down on the couch and talking through what I had done wrong, why it was a problem, and what my consequences were now. When my own stubbornness got in the way, I would refuse to make eye contact or try to argue. Causing 'The Lecture' to last longer.

Typically following a lecture, a parent will teach their child not to do it again by implementing a punishment.  Although this may seem like the best course let's take a step back and think through some things.

First, how mature is your child? For me, a lecture was effective. I was mature enough to handle it and understand my wrong actions and corresponding consequences.

If you have a special needs child, remember their maturity level is often behind that of their same age peers. In addition, all children are immature (I was too, even though I often thought otherwise).

It can be helpful to ask yourself questions such as:

What is the goal?

Are we planning on teaching or punishing?

As parents we should focus mainly on teaching. This is where true progress is made. So before jumping into that lecture or punishment, consider the following tips.

Tip #1 Love First

Have an attitude of love. Remembering how much you love your child and want the best for them will help as you decide the right way to phrase your thoughts. Your kiddo will be able to pick up on it too. When I was having a lecture, even if I knew my parents were dissapointed, I never questioned that they still loved me and my mistake could be fixed.

Tip #2 Discussion

When your child has calmed enough to talk (if verbal), try discussing what happened and remind them they are safe. Working through the logic of what happened can help with emotional regulation and personal understanding.

Tip #3 Give Attention

Show an increase of attention. Kids get a lot of attention when they are having a tantrum but when it is all over, we want to walk away. This sends the message to the child that attention is given most when I am upset.  We want to increase our positive attention given when our kids are calm and happy. Help them understand by our behavior that we give increased attention when they are more calm and rational.

If a mess was made during the tantrum, now is a good time to let them know you need them to help with clean up. Clean up is not the punishment and should not be seen that way. Clean up time is a natural consequence of the child’s actions. As a parent we should willingly help our kiddos clean up. Doing this sets a good example and sends the message to our children that we will always be there for them, building a foundation of trust. Don't be hesitant to make it fun! Playing music, singing songs, and making it silly can turn a negative into a more positive experience. Overall, the goal is getting the child to help clean up the mess made.

Set realistic goals for the future. Expect another outburst, but also be prepared. Likewise, it is important to prepare your child. This is the time to practice with your child how to respond during a tantrum. What calming strategies can be used? If your child doesn’t like to breath or count when upset, think outside of the box. How about breathing disguised as blowing bubbles? Who doesn’t love bubbles! How about a favorite “calm down” song that you play or sing when things get heated? Having effective calming strategies helps distract from an escalating tantrum and teaches your child how to calmly work through difficult emotions.

Lastly, if a consequence is needed be sure it is a teaching consequence. Think and plan ahead with this question.. what will this teach my child so they can do better next time? As families, we should all be striving together to help each other navigate the daily nuances of life.  

For more tips and strategies in working through behavior, please reach out! We support clients and their families, supporting you no matter what.

May 24, 2024

10 Tips for Staying Cool During Crisis

It's been long day.

You picked up your kiddo from school and stopped at the grocery store to grab a few things for dinner. As you are checking out, you notice the king size chocolate bar in their hands. Now, a moment of internal conflict. Do you take the candy knowing full well an explosive tantrum will ensue? Or do you let them have it in an effort to keep the peace?

We all have those moments when we realize our child is about to explode. A full on, screaming, arms flailing tantrum! Not only can it be frustrating and embarrassing, but you may even question your parenting abilities.

After the hurricane passes and peace has been restored, we are left wondering... what just happened? Was there more I could have done?

For Training Tip Tuesday, we decided to share 10 tips to help your child during crisis! Sometimes we can recognize signs that our kiddo is going to go into a tantrum. While each child is unique, the signs and behavior patterns are often consistent.

Ideally, we want to try to stop a tantrum before it begins. You can do this by noticing the behavior signs that signal a tantrum is coming, and then intervene. Redirecting to a different preferred topic, asking simple questions or changing the environment can break the tension before it escalates out of hand.

If this pre-intervention is not working or you don’t catch the tantrum in time, then the following tips will help you deescalate an already tense situation.

#1 Stay Calm

Easier said than done for sure! But this is not the time for you to lose it too. Stay calm and in control, taking deep breaths or even counting to yourself if necessary.

#2 Even Tone

Along with keeping your body language calm, be mindful of your tone of voice. Use a calm even tone. Avoid yelling or sounding overly stressed and anxious.

#3 Time and Place

There is a time and place for everything. Do not try to teach, lecture or negotiate with a screaming child. This is not the time for that, and it will only make you both more frustrated. When someone is screaming, no one is learning. Save the teaching for when you are both in the right frame of mind.

#4 Change Your Environment

If it's possible, move to a quiet, calm environment with less noise and distractions.

#5 We All Need Space

Sometimes we just need space to breathe and process our emotions alone, without the added stress of another person's input or emotions. Prioritizing your child's safety, allow them to have their space. Do not over crowd or hover.

#6 Be Clear and Concise

When speaking use clear, calm language. Ask questions such as, "Are you ready to talk to me?" or "Do you want a drink?" This will distract from the tantrum but will not give in to the demands that may have caused it in the first place. If the child says no or screams say "Alright, we will try again in a few minutes." Interject every few minutes as needed.

#7 Coping Strategies

If your child previously learned a coping strategy such as breathing, blowing pretend bubbles, or stretching then this is the time to redirect to this strategy.  A caregiver can set the example and model the behavior we want to see the child use.

#8 Praise

Calmly praise their attempts to self-calm or self-regulate. Say statements such as "I see you are taking deep breaths, thank you." and "I see you are sitting nicely; I like that."

#9 Use a Visual

Sometimes just refocusing the child on a visual timer, favorite stuffed animal or sensory object may help your child redirect to a calm state.

#10 Refresh and Restart

Once the tantrum has passed and calm is returning, both the caregiver and child should take a drink of water and begin to relax. Taking a drink allows you to reset and move forward with a better focus.

For more information on how to handle post-tantrum, keep your eyes open for part 2 next week. You won't want to miss it!

As always, we are here for you and your family's individual needs. If you have any questions or concerns, definitely reach out! We are ready to help you.

May 24, 2024

Sensory Struggles

Many young kids have sensory challenges that they deal with. It’s a normal part of adjusting to the environment in which they live. I remember growing up, I didn't like rooms with large groups of people. This was partly because I had hearing loss and couldn't pinpoint where sounds were coming from. In noisy rooms, it sounded like a big, jumbled mess! As I got older, I learned to better adjust.

Sights, sounds, tastes, and movement are all part of our daily living environment. However, in our kiddos diagnosed with Autism, sensory challenges can be more extreme. That's why we decided to focus this week's Training Tip Tuesday on sensory struggles!

Although these sensory challenges are difficult, when we learn and begin to understand them, we will have the right tools to effectively handle when challenges come up. After all, knowledge is power!

For starters, what do sensory challenges even look like?

According to Autism Speaks (linked below) "Many people with autism show certain behaviors when they are experiencing a sensory issue."

These can include the following:

- Increased movement, such as jumping, spinning or crashing into things

- Increased stimming, such as hand flapping, making repetitive noises or rocking back and forth

- Talking faster and louder, or not talking at all

- Covering ears or eyes

- Difficulty recognizing internal sensations like hunger, pain or the need to use the bathroom

- Refusing or insisting on certain foods or clothing items

- Frequent chewing on non-food items

- Frequent touching of others or playing rough

- Difficulty communicating or responding as the brain shifts resources to deal with sensory input aka shutting down

- Escalating, overwhelming emotions or need to escape a situation aka meltdown

So, what can you as the parent do to help?

Starting by shifting your perspective from negative statements to positive statements is the best way to address the challenges you are facing. For example, ask 'how can I help?' instead of 'what is wrong with my child?' Sensory struggles are primarily environmentally based. To support our child, it is necessary that we look at the environment and state.

Sensory challenges are often grouped into 2 main categories. The first is hypersensitivity, which is over responsive behavior to environmental stimuli. Often your child gets overwhelmed and reactive, meaning you'll want to help them stay calm and relaxed. The other type is hyposensitivity, which is under responsive behavior to the stimuli in their environment. Your kiddo doesn't get enough sensory support from their regular environment, so they look for ways to get more. To help a hyposensitive child, you'll want to provide more healthy stimulation. Often special needs children will experience both sensory struggles.

If your child's sensory struggles mainly fall into the category of hypersensitivity, here are some ideas of how you can help support them.

- Using light covers, sunglasses or a hat under bright fluorescent lights

- Wearing ear plugs or headphones in noisy environments

- Setting up workspaces in rooms with a closed door or high walls

- Avoiding products with an overly strong scent

- Choosing foods that avoid aversions to textures, temperatures or spices

- Providing soft and comfortable clothing to wear

- Adjusting your schedule to avoid places during rush hour or with crowds

If your child's sensory struggles mainly fall into the category of hyposensitivity, here are some ideas of how you can help support them.

- Provide visual aids if they have trouble processing spoken information

- Using fidget toys, chewies and other sensory tools

- Arranging the furniture to provide safe, open spaces

- Take frequent movement breaks throughout the day to break up monotony

- Provide foods to eat with strong flavors or mixed textures

- Using a weighted blanket, lap pad or wearing clothing that provides deep pressure

That wraps up our training tip for this week! If you have more questions about supporting your child with sensory struggles, don't hesitate to reach out anytime.

Works Cited

Autism Speaks. “Sensory Issues.” Autism Speaks, 2023,  www.autismspeaks.org/sensory-issues. Accessed 12 Sept. 2023

May 24, 2024

Books with Bella

You know when you see something so cute and fluffy that you just HAVE to touch it? And physically restrain yourself from squeezing too hard? That was me when we picked up Bella as an 8-week-old puppy almost 3 years ago.

In my humble opinion, Bella was the softest and most adorable puppy in the whole universe! And to prove that she lived up to this title, here are some pictures on her 'gotcha' day.

Christmas puppy photo shoot
The car ride home and post travel nap!

See what I mean? Isn't this just the cutest face you've ever seen? Bella the ball of fluff grew QUICK, and it wasn't long before she was stealing the hearts of everyone in the neighborhood.

10 weeks old
Bella's first Christmas
Getting bigger by the week!

Now just shy of 3 years old, Bella is full grown and still the fluffiest pup around. Hilarious and always keeping us on our toes, we want to share the happiness she brings us with others as well.

Bella tends to be sensitive. Which makes her great as connecting with others! It also means she is overly dramatic... all the time.

The evidence to support my claim.

After she snuck downstairs and got caught chewing something, we told her 'no.' Then she decided to pout in the corner.

We were on vacation, breakfast wasn't ready 'on time' according to her standards so she was getting in the way in the kitchen. We told her to go lay down and she got very offended. Even when her breakfast was ready, to prove her point she wouldn't come eat for a while.

Case closed.

Sometimes all you can do is laugh and roll your eyes at her haha. We decided to use this extra sensitivity for good by making her a certified therapy dog. Bella is great with kids, very patient, and just loves to loaf around. Primarily, Bella will focus on improving your kiddo's reading skills. We've noticed that many special needs kids struggle to practice reading. It takes a lot of effort, patience, and they often don't enjoy doing something they aren't immediately good at. Well, who wouldn't want to snuggle up and read books with Bella? In the clinic, we have plans to set up a reading corner where Bella can be integrated into your child's session.

We know your family will love Bella just as much as we do!

Last year Aaron was starting to get sick, but nothing too bad. We assumed he was catching a regular 24hr bug and would be back to normal after a good night's rest. That night Bella laid on him in the picture above. The following day, he was sitting, laying on the couch, or on the ground, she kept sticking her nose right in his ear. Later his ear began hurting and after it didn't get better, we took him to the Dr. where he was diagnosed with an ear infection.

Coincidence? I'll let you decide.

Bella is sweet, emotional, in-tune, and just overflowing with love! We cannot wait for you to meet her. If you are interested in ABA therapy services or even to meet and read to Bella, reach out. We would be happy to welcome you to the Sunshine family!

You can keep up with Bella on instagram and tiktok @readbookswithbella !

May 24, 2024

Patience is a Virtue

It's fall y'all!

Fall is one of my favorite seasons, and I believe we can officially start celebrating everything fall has to offer right after Labor Day. With all the flavors of pumpkin spice and cinnamon, activities and festivals, colors and clothes, what's not to love?

After the heat and humidity of August following a long and sweaty summer, it's hard not to pine after the cool, crisp weather that fall has to offer. At least for me, I find myself counting down the days until I can walk outside without melting! But, with anything in life, good things come to those who wait. Learning patience is a fundamental skill we need to develop as we interact with the people around us.

One occurring behavior I see that a lot of families with young children face is a lack of patience. Many kids struggle to wait. I want it and I want it now is their rule of life! Parents do their best to lovingly teach their kiddos the importance of waiting, however it doesn’t seem to get better over time for our kids with Autism.

That's why for Training Tip Tuesday this week, I decided to talk about teaching patience. Inspiration for this blog post came from Autism Speak's article 'Autism and Teaching Patience' which is linked below.

It talks about how a lot of kids with autism are visual learners, meaning they absorb information best through sight. This applies to teaching patience as well. Usually, we tell our kiddos 'wait, 20 minutes, later', etc. However, these are auditory signals which are harder for our special needs children to understand. By changing the approach we use to teach patience from listening to seeing, we are teaching to our child's needs making it easier for them to grasp the concept.

The article mentions several ways to teach patience visually. Wait cards, calendars, visual timers, and choice boards just a few of the methods that can be adapted to your families' individual needs. If your child lacks patience, or the ability to wait, then this article is for you!

If you have any questions or would like some advice about helping your kiddo learn more patience, please reach out to us! We would love to connect you with a Behavior Analyst. Or, if you have something you would like us to address in a blog post we are here to help!

Autism and Teaching Patience | Autism Speaks

May 24, 2024

4 Ways to Stop Being a Pushover Parent

Another Tuesday another Training Tip! Raise your hand if you've ever told your child they had to finish their vegetables to get a cookie? Or they would lose their toy for throwing a tantrum? But when the rest of the family is having dessert, or your kiddo is finally playing independently its hard to stand strong.

For this week, we wanted to focus on the importance of following through. Many times, we are guilty of making empty threats with the hopes of getting our kiddos to listen. Children, being ever so clever, learn very quickly if you say what you mean and mean what you say. When there is lack of follow through, kids will learn they can continue to test our limits. Sound familiar? These simple but important tips are for you!

#1 No Means No.

When you say no, stick with it! Kids need to learn that our words can be trusted. Sometimes we get into a rut of saying no immediately, regret it and we don't enforce the "no." If this is the case, follow through with the "no " statement for now. Then wait around 20 minutes until you see your kiddo being good and reward them with what they originally asked for. It's a win win!

#2 Wisely Pick Your Battles

Kids are always learning. The way they view the world, and their priorities are different than ours. Children think differently and have important things to them that we don't even think about. It's part of growing up. When your kiddo wants to make choices, let them! Maybe they want to mismatch their clothes or wear boots instead of sneakers. Whatever they are choosing, allow them to make their own choices. It's not worth the battle to force what we want every time, so save those battles for when it is actually important. Our children will learn that we intervene when it's necessary. If we choose a verbal battle, then we need to win it. Not by yelling louder, rather, by showing our kids we are calm and in control. Stick to our words making sure those words are honest.

#3 Mix it Up

Have a fun break, day or night. Just as kids need structure, some days they need a break. Give it to them! Pick a fun day, maybe each week or twice a month, where some of our rules can go on the back burner. Cereal for dinner? Sure! Movie night in mom's room? Yes please! Sleep in the couch cushion fort? Now we are on a roll. You can even call it a fun name like "backwards day" or something silly.  Rules are a necessary part of structure and routine, however, give your kiddos a break from their rules every once in a while. Your kids will love it and so will you!

#4 Consequences

When we are upset, we want our kids to know it. We tell them if they don't straighten up, privileges are lost. Often this is occurring during an emotional crisis aka 'tantrum,' and although we are serious, this is never the time for punishment. Kids can't immediately control their emotions once they have escalated. No matter how much we threaten to take things away, they still escalate. It's an unfair advantage on our part. When your child is on this emotional roller coaster and you're losing patience as well, don't try to teach or preach. Don't threaten. Instead, work on calming yourself and your kiddo. Once you're calm, then the necessary consequences can be discussed. Remember, we are the adults. It is our responsibility to teach our children how they should act when they are mature enough to handle it!

If you have any questions, don't hesitate to reach out. We are more than happy to help you with anything your family needs!

May 24, 2024

Officially Open

It's time! The moment we've all been waiting for...

*cue Jaws theme music*

The clinic is open!!!

Earlier this week, Sunshine ABA Therapy made history when we opened our first clinic in Hinesville Georgia. While there is still a lot to do, we've been hard at work creating a space your family will enjoy. Here are a few photos of the process.

Christine Hodge, Georgia Clinic Director, putting decals on the wall.
Nicole Wagner, Owner, painting the first layer of our chalkboard wall.
The finished wall: we decided to paint a chalkboard wall because there are SO many ways it can be used during your ABA Therapy. The possibilities are endless! Plus, who doesn't love chalk? Every kid I've met races to draw as soon as they see a chalkboard. Especially when it is as big as this one!
One of our independent therapy rooms.

These are just a few pictures, but they definitely don't do it justice. It's just the beginning and we have exciting plans for the clinic and Sunshine ABA Therapy as a whole in the near future. Come see the clinic for yourself! Reach out and we would be more than happy to assist you.

May 22, 2024