Patience is a Virtue

It's fall y'all!

Fall is one of my favorite seasons, and I believe we can officially start celebrating everything fall has to offer right after Labor Day. With all the flavors of pumpkin spice and cinnamon, activities and festivals, colors and clothes, what's not to love?

After the heat and humidity of August following a long and sweaty summer, it's hard not to pine after the cool, crisp weather that fall has to offer. At least for me, I find myself counting down the days until I can walk outside without melting! But, with anything in life, good things come to those who wait. Learning patience is a fundamental skill we need to develop as we interact with the people around us.

One occurring behavior I see that a lot of families with young children face is a lack of patience. Many kids struggle to wait. I want it and I want it now is their rule of life! Parents do their best to lovingly teach their kiddos the importance of waiting, however it doesn’t seem to get better over time for our kids with Autism.

That's why for Training Tip Tuesday this week, I decided to talk about teaching patience. Inspiration for this blog post came from Autism Speak's article 'Autism and Teaching Patience' which is linked below.

It talks about how a lot of kids with autism are visual learners, meaning they absorb information best through sight. This applies to teaching patience as well. Usually, we tell our kiddos 'wait, 20 minutes, later', etc. However, these are auditory signals which are harder for our special needs children to understand. By changing the approach we use to teach patience from listening to seeing, we are teaching to our child's needs making it easier for them to grasp the concept.

The article mentions several ways to teach patience visually. Wait cards, calendars, visual timers, and choice boards just a few of the methods that can be adapted to your families' individual needs. If your child lacks patience, or the ability to wait, then this article is for you!

If you have any questions or would like some advice about helping your kiddo learn more patience, please reach out to us! We would love to connect you with a Behavior Analyst. Or, if you have something you would like us to address in a blog post we are here to help!

Autism and Teaching Patience | Autism Speaks

May 24, 2024

4 Ways to Stop Being a Pushover Parent

Another Tuesday another Training Tip! Raise your hand if you've ever told your child they had to finish their vegetables to get a cookie? Or they would lose their toy for throwing a tantrum? But when the rest of the family is having dessert, or your kiddo is finally playing independently its hard to stand strong.

For this week, we wanted to focus on the importance of following through. Many times, we are guilty of making empty threats with the hopes of getting our kiddos to listen. Children, being ever so clever, learn very quickly if you say what you mean and mean what you say. When there is lack of follow through, kids will learn they can continue to test our limits. Sound familiar? These simple but important tips are for you!

#1 No Means No.

When you say no, stick with it! Kids need to learn that our words can be trusted. Sometimes we get into a rut of saying no immediately, regret it and we don't enforce the "no." If this is the case, follow through with the "no " statement for now. Then wait around 20 minutes until you see your kiddo being good and reward them with what they originally asked for. It's a win win!

#2 Wisely Pick Your Battles

Kids are always learning. The way they view the world, and their priorities are different than ours. Children think differently and have important things to them that we don't even think about. It's part of growing up. When your kiddo wants to make choices, let them! Maybe they want to mismatch their clothes or wear boots instead of sneakers. Whatever they are choosing, allow them to make their own choices. It's not worth the battle to force what we want every time, so save those battles for when it is actually important. Our children will learn that we intervene when it's necessary. If we choose a verbal battle, then we need to win it. Not by yelling louder, rather, by showing our kids we are calm and in control. Stick to our words making sure those words are honest.

#3 Mix it Up

Have a fun break, day or night. Just as kids need structure, some days they need a break. Give it to them! Pick a fun day, maybe each week or twice a month, where some of our rules can go on the back burner. Cereal for dinner? Sure! Movie night in mom's room? Yes please! Sleep in the couch cushion fort? Now we are on a roll. You can even call it a fun name like "backwards day" or something silly.  Rules are a necessary part of structure and routine, however, give your kiddos a break from their rules every once in a while. Your kids will love it and so will you!

#4 Consequences

When we are upset, we want our kids to know it. We tell them if they don't straighten up, privileges are lost. Often this is occurring during an emotional crisis aka 'tantrum,' and although we are serious, this is never the time for punishment. Kids can't immediately control their emotions once they have escalated. No matter how much we threaten to take things away, they still escalate. It's an unfair advantage on our part. When your child is on this emotional roller coaster and you're losing patience as well, don't try to teach or preach. Don't threaten. Instead, work on calming yourself and your kiddo. Once you're calm, then the necessary consequences can be discussed. Remember, we are the adults. It is our responsibility to teach our children how they should act when they are mature enough to handle it!

If you have any questions, don't hesitate to reach out. We are more than happy to help you with anything your family needs!

May 24, 2024

Officially Open

It's time! The moment we've all been waiting for...

*cue Jaws theme music*

The clinic is open!!!

Earlier this week, Sunshine ABA Therapy made history when we opened our first clinic in Hinesville Georgia. While there is still a lot to do, we've been hard at work creating a space your family will enjoy. Here are a few photos of the process.

Christine Hodge, Georgia Clinic Director, putting decals on the wall.
Nicole Wagner, Owner, painting the first layer of our chalkboard wall.
The finished wall: we decided to paint a chalkboard wall because there are SO many ways it can be used during your ABA Therapy. The possibilities are endless! Plus, who doesn't love chalk? Every kid I've met races to draw as soon as they see a chalkboard. Especially when it is as big as this one!
One of our independent therapy rooms.

These are just a few pictures, but they definitely don't do it justice. It's just the beginning and we have exciting plans for the clinic and Sunshine ABA Therapy as a whole in the near future. Come see the clinic for yourself! Reach out and we would be more than happy to assist you.

May 22, 2024

Watch Your Words

You know that sinking feeling? When you say something in the heat of the moment and feel immediate regret.

We all fall into the parent trap of saying things to our children we probably shouldn’t. It is part of learning to parent and navigate relationships. However, when speaking to our children, it's important that we remember they are not equal adults and therefore cannot handle adult language. When we speak to our children keep these tips in mind.

Remember to be kind. It's tough when we are feeling upset and frustrated. But if a parent is showing this emotion consistently, your child gets the wrong message which is… does my parent really like me? They associate themselves as the source of your frustration which will wreak havoc on their confidence and self-esteem. Of course, we love our kids! However, they won't know that unless we show them with kind, calm words.

As important as the things you say are, remember to consider your actions. You teach by example and whether we realize it or not, our children are always watching! When we speak to our kids, we teach them how to have a relationship and behave with others. Choose your words wisely and use a calm voice. A child will internalize everything a parent or loved adult says to them, right or wrong. When you are upset, tell your child you need a break first and then proceed. This example will teach your child how to handle conflict better than any words you say in the heat of the moment.

As a society, we label everything in our environment each day. Although this is common practice, please remove labels for your child. Do not call them names or label their potential. Your child will live up to your labels and expectations. Use positive statements such as 'I know you can do it', 'You are so creative,' or fun or inquisitive etc. Be careful not to body shame by saying they are too something or not enough of something.  Kids, even young ones, understand when your statements are negative or positive. That's why it is critical to keep our statements positive. If you do say something and regret it, apologize! An apology teaches others you are human and not afraid to admit mistakes. By watching your example, your children will also learn how they should act when they say something they regret.

Create a safe space of open communication. Remember to keep in mind the age and maturity level of your kiddo, using words on their level. Be precise and set realistic goals. Always be honest, and don't fall into the habit of making empty threats to take things away you really won't. Kids need to know they can rely on you and trust the caring adults in their life!

Above all, NEVER withhold your child’s needs. Every child needs love, comfort, food, clothes and nurturing. These needs are non-negotiable and should never be withheld or earned. There are plenty of fun items that can be earned or taken away, if necessary, but never a child's needs.

As you consider these tips, don't stress! Change takes time but when you put in the effort, little by little and day by day, you'll see improvement. And remember, you are all part of the Sunshine Family! Reach out if you have any questions, we are always here for you.

May 22, 2024

5 Tips to Avoid Caregiver Burnout

Happy Tuesday! Hope you are having a great start to your week and enjoying all the beauty around you in this world. Often, I'm so busy with my tasks and to-do lists that I take the small things for granted. And I don't mean to, but I get caught up in what others need that I forget to breath and appreciate the moment.

I'm sure many of you can relate, our families are everything! We love them and want the very best for our loved ones, making sure they have the things that they need oftentimes at the expense of ourselves. Sometimes we want so much for them that we easily forget about taking care of a very important member of the family, ourselves.

Thats why Training Tip Tuesday this week is for the ones who tirelessly serve in order to make sure those around us have the best life possible. From driving to and from, to cooking, cleaning mess after mess, play dates, therapy appointments, you get it...  the list just doesn’t end! Often the needs of others become so great that we don’t feel there is any time for the Giver. When we neglect our own needs day after day, we can easily start to feel down and depressed experiencing what is called, 'Caregiver Burnout.'

According to the American Medical Association, "Caregiver burnout can create symptoms of stress and depression in the caregiver and negatively affect both the caregiver and the care recipient. Some symptoms manifest externally and are easy to identify, but others are often internal and not as apparent. If left unaddressed, burnout can have harmful effects for both the caregiver and the patient under their care. (1)"

Although we may need to seek professional help if we feel we are experiencing extreme caregiver burnout, here are 5 tips to pamper the Giver to try to avoid the onset of burnout before it becomes overwhelming.

#1 Remember What You Love

This could mean rekindling a personal passion, talent or hobby. Who are you outside of being a caregiver? Take some time to remember who you are so you can do something you love. It's okay to be happy and meet a personal need!

#2 Be Realistic

Be realistic about schedules, time and money. There are hundreds of great programs out there that our loved ones could be involved in, and they all may have great benefits. However, we can’t attend every great thing in life. Look at your options, your budget, and your time. Then, after considering what is good, better, and best, make decisions that work for the entire family.

#3 Reflect

Take time to reflect each day on your life. Some like to meditate, some pray, others listen to peaceful music. It can be as simple as just sitting down to think. Focus on your breathing and be calm. Spend a few moments each day on you. This will calm and refresh your mind and help you feel a greater sense of peace and wellness.

#4 Get Outside Regularly

Now before you tell me it's the middle of August with the humidity of a sauna, there are great benefits! Research has shown that fresh air and a short walk does so much for our soul. The simple things in life matter most and being outside consistently is as simple as it gets!

#5 Shed That Guilt!

Don’t fall victim to the mentality that you can do it all, even Batman had Robin. Caregivers often carry guilt over not being good enough for those whom we care for. Please don’t! Instead, praise what you are already doing and focus on what you may be able to do better. Put a plan in place if improvements truly need to be made. You can use your energy for more important things then feeling bad all the time. Kids don’t always need to be entertained and we aren't expected to always have all the answers in life. We only have 24 hours in a day, spend your time wisely!

If you feel your burnout has reached a point that is greater than you can handle, seek professional help. Strength comes from asking and receiving help. For more information on caregiver burnout please visit 'The American Medical Association' (cited below).

And as always, we are here for you! Reach out to us with questions, comments, or concerns and we are more than happy to help. At Sunshine ABA, families are the most important, and you are part of ours.

Works Cited

(1) “Caring for the Caregiver - American Medical Association.” American Medical Association , www.ama-assn.org/sites/ama-assn.org/files/corp/media-browser/public/public-health/caregiver-burnout-guide.pdf. Accessed 15 Aug. 2023.

May 22, 2024

Drumroll please...

There is just something about Saturday afternoons in the Summer. After another long and hot week, I like to have a lazier Saturday spending time with family and getting things done around the house. No matter how you spend your Saturday, I feel like there are always good vibes attached.

That's why I thought Saturday would be the perfect day to share some exciting news! Exciting announcements on an already good day is like the ultimate double whammy.

As the Sunshine family continues to grow, we are STOKED to announce that...

*drumroll please*

There will be a brand-new clinic located in Orlando Florida, expected to open Mid -September!!!

Who else is jumping for joy??

If you've never had services in a clinic before let me tell you just a few reasons why this is so exciting!

- The presence of peers allows for more opportunities to work on social interaction and appropriate behavior

- A better setting for generalizing skills to places other than the home that your kiddo may not be familiar with

- Access to a wider range of reinforcers and learning opportunities

- Opportunity to practice real world skills in a controlled environment

- Ability to access one-on-one high-quality parent training with providers in a clinical setting

- And more!

We can't wait to open in Orlando and have the opportunity to meet your family's needs in this way! And if you aren't located near Orlando or Hinesville, definitely keep your eyes open. As Sunshine ABA Therapy continues to expand, we have exciting things underway.

If you have any questions at all, or things you would like to see in our clinic reach out! We want to help you and your family the best that we can.

May 22, 2024

Easy Peasy Transitioning

Hi Mamas… we have now prepared for going back to school the best we can and the first day is fast approaching! Our routines are in place, backpacks are packed, and we are ready.

School has begun…now what?? Here are a few tips to help ease the stress of transitioning that can be especially difficult for our special needs kiddos.

#1 Preparation

Please do all you can to prepare for this first day. We have discussed some ideas in my previous blog posts, so if you missed those definitely go check them out. Have discussions, read stories, lay out clothes, plan breakfast and set up your first day to be organized the best you can.

#2 Visual Supports

Some kids need a visual. A binder that has pictures from home, a schedule of      your child’s school day, a picture of the school they will attend, the      classroom, the lunchroom etc. Looking at these pictures organized in a simple binder or folder can go to great lengths to help with this back-to-school adjustment.

#3 Daily Communication

Have a communication system that works with your child’s teacher. Often this is a notebook where the teacher and the parent can communicate important      things to better understand the daily life challenges of your child and your family. Open communication in the beginning will help prevent future problems.

#4 Stay Positive

Focus on what is going well! Too many times we as adults only focus on what our kids are struggling with but forget to focus on what they are doing well or      improving upon. Stay positive and remind your child, their teacher and      yourself about what is going well. A way you can keep this positive mindset is to write something down that you are grateful for and went well each day.

#5 Problem Solving

If there is a problem or a challenge, seek to solve it. With careful thought      and insight into the needs of your child all problems have a solution!      Solutions aren’t always a quick fix or perfect, however working on a      solution instead of focusing on a problem is a much better use of our time and energy.

#6 Last but not least, relax!

Transitions can be emotionally and physically draining, but they are a part of life. Expecting some challenges to occur will help you be better prepared to handle them. It often takes a few weeks for a back-to-school routine to be established but once it is, things will get back to a normal pace. Believe in yourself, you got this!

If you have more questions about transitions, back-to-school, or anything else please reach out! We are here to support you and your family with anything you need.

May 22, 2024

5 Ways to Catch More Zzz's

It is Wednesday! Happy middle of the week everyone. Normally we post Training Tip Tuesday on Tuesdays (hence the name) but we were having technical difficulties uploading yesterday. So, here we are today better late than never!

Last week we talked about different ways you can help your kiddo get ready for school. One of the ideas mentioned was establishing your earlier bedtime routine. This week we wanted to go into a little more detail about how you can do that with ease!

I know it is tough for kids to get to sleep at night. This is especially true for kids that have anxiety, autism, and other disabilities that affect their sleep. Not enough getting sleep affects the entire family and causes stress for everyone involved. Some kiddos need to be seen by a medical professional or may need formal sleep studies to help with chronic restlessness and inability to sleep. However, the tips below can help establish a better sleep routine for kids with sleep challenges.

#1 Avoid giving your child stimulants such as caffeine (4 hours) and sugar at (least 2 hours) before bed. Biologically, our bodies naturally wind down with the sunset and stimulants such as caffeine or an erratic sleep schedule disrupt our circadian rhythm. By avoiding stimulants, we are working with our bodies' natural mechanisms instead of fighting against them!

#2 Establish a regular nighttime routine. And example could be to give your child a bath then read a story and put them to bed at the same time every night. Children thrive off consistency and a regular routine will help their body adjust.

#3 Help your child to relax before bed by reading a book, giving a gentle back massage, or turning on soft music.

#4 Wake your child up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This goes back to the circadian rhythm thing. Waking up at the same time every morning will prompt our bodies to relax and fall asleep at the same time every night.

#5 Offer your child something that helps to calm them throughout the night. This may be a favorite stuffy, a nightlight, a favorite pet in their room, soft background noise like a fan, or all of the above! Having that security item with them all night will help your kiddo fall and stay asleep.

It is really hard for busy families to maintain a routine so be patient. Implementing some of the above strategies is better than nothing. Start with one or two and build from there. Consistency is the key to this strategy so don’t give up!

While these tips will help, "if your child suffers from a sleep disorder such as sleep apnea, sleep walking, sleep terrors, restless legs syndrome, he may need a referral to a sleep specialist. Some children with persistent insomnia will need further behavioral or pharmacological treatment to improve their sleep." (1)

Contact us for more information about helping your kiddo establish a better sleep routine!

(1) Sleep | Autism Speaks, autismspeaks.org

May 22, 2024